Clueless

With my last run at online dating behind me for a bit, I was enjoying just conversing and spending time with a couple of guys I had met, nothing serious just casual dating and getting to know each other. One of the guys I had only been chatting with via phone and email, as he lives out of country. He seemed like a great guy, our personalities and sense of humor meshed. ‘Hawaii Dave’ (as he will be known) and I had been communicating for several months now. I knew about his family, work, friends, and either of us would check in and see how a project or event had gone in each others lives ‘Hey, did you land that account?’, you know, we cared. Call it long distance bonding, and me being open to life and it’s possibilities.

Well, life decided to give me a reality check yesterday and quite honestly, I was amused and appalled all at the same time. Thank god my sense of humor is fully intact. Now, I have bored you with an assemblance of background on me and ‘Hawaii’ for a purpose (crafty aren’t I?). It was to give you perspective when you read the following email I received from HD, let’s see if your reaction was the same as mine…

“Hey  - I’m back… thank you for being the forgiving type.. bonus points for me… while catching up with friends and taking a moment from the job, this gal on match contacted me from vancouver bc – she seemed really cool – so I took a chance this last weekend and went up to van and had a good time.. but it wasn’t a complete match.. was thinking about calling you but didn’t want to be disrespectful to her..  it was surreal experience – i wish people put more up close pictures of themselves on the site - note to self – when somebody on match puts pictures of themselves up that are far away & not in focus – it is probably not a good sign…   anyway – she is really cool, and I gained a new cool friend… So, how are things with you?”

Well, goody for you! Really?! Was I supposed to be, what? Thrilled that he had made the trip to Vancouver to meet another ‘gal’ and that it didn’t work out? Contacting me would have been disrespectful to her? Surreal? You betcha. Note to you- THAT my friend, is called dating karma. I just can’t decide if it was him or me that was clueless.