The Proposal

Most girls dream of the day when they will be asked by that special someone, ‘Will you marry me?’ It’s a special day, one of life’s milestones, and one would assume, something that you are not asked very often. Oddly, this doesn’t seem to be the case… for me. Now, I will preface this little share session with, I don’t take these men seriously, but, will be tempted VERY soon to call them on their bluff. You got it, I get asked to get married, A LOT. In the past three months? At least three times, by perfect strangers, and by men I know and have dated, go figure. Lord have mercy on the poor sap who eventually asks me and  means it, I’ll be prone to assuming it’s another case of the man who cried ‘marry me!’, and not take him seriously.

What’s the deal? What happened to, ‘you seem really nice, care to go for drinks?’ or a simple, ‘I miss you, come back’, but oh no, the modern day answer to that… MARRY ME! It’s sets a difficult precedent, where do you go from there? You tend to miss all of the fun stuff when jumping straight to marriage (THAT and taking time to find out he’s not coo coo). Maybe that’s it, with everything these days being fast this, and fast that, we now have to contend with, Fast Marriage. Let’s all just skip the dating part and jump right on into unholy matrimony! Brilliant! NOT.

With my dark sense of humor, I decided to freak my best friend out by telling her I was moving back to the city due to my impending and very sudden, upcoming nuptials. Her panicked response was golden (I’m evil, I know). Kidding aside, I’m surprised that the sacrament of matrimony is treated with such a laissez-faire attitude, that, and evidently I scream of being ‘the marrying type’. I’m not sure what unsettles me most.

May I suggest we go back to the good ole days, when proposals meant you wanted to share the rest of your life with a special someone, and not, ‘I’m really into you’, to a complete stranger. If the former is the case, then I propose your answer should most definitely be a resounding,’Yes!’

Do you believe in Unicorns?

He’s thoughtful, funny, ambitious, attractive, and makes a mean Carbonaro. Yup, he’s perfect. Does such a creature exist? They do, and although not plentiful, they roam wild in the rural lands and cityscapes around the globe. You need to pay close attention, appreciate them in the moment, or, oh… their gone. The modern-day unicorn, or rather man-icorn. Ladies, he’s out there, but you just have to not look for him and thank god, you don’t have to be a virgin for him to reveal himself to you (whew!).

I was having a great talk with a couple of femmes the other day about that ever elusive creature, and it was agreed that they do indeed exist, and even sometimes hide in wolf’s clothing (Bah, a unicorn in wolf’s clothing? Now there’s a nice modern-day role reversal). Case in point, one of the gals had recently attended a soiree where a particular man had set his sights on her and proceeded to ‘stalk’ her all night, making his attraction known. Behaviour that borders on creepy, right? Well, upon closer inspection this ‘wolf’ turned out to more closely resemble our coveted unicorn, rather than a ‘lupus eatus’. Was she surprised? Ah yeah, like little red riding hood, but instead of her becoming a midnight snack, she just may have found her prince charming. Bedtime story confused? Sorry, but when it comes to mythical creatures, the mixed metaphors are necessary. Just keeping the belief alive, because you never know when your unicorn might show up.

Clueless

With my last run at online dating behind me for a bit, I was enjoying just conversing and spending time with a couple of guys I had met, nothing serious just casual dating and getting to know each other. One of the guys I had only been chatting with via phone and email, as he lives out of country. He seemed like a great guy, our personalities and sense of humor meshed. ‘Hawaii Dave’ (as he will be known) and I had been communicating for several months now. I knew about his family, work, friends, and either of us would check in and see how a project or event had gone in each others lives ‘Hey, did you land that account?’, you know, we cared. Call it long distance bonding, and me being open to life and it’s possibilities.

Well, life decided to give me a reality check yesterday and quite honestly, I was amused and appalled all at the same time. Thank god my sense of humor is fully intact. Now, I have bored you with an assemblance of background on me and ‘Hawaii’ for a purpose (crafty aren’t I?). It was to give you perspective when you read the following email I received from HD, let’s see if your reaction was the same as mine…

“Hey  - I’m back… thank you for being the forgiving type.. bonus points for me… while catching up with friends and taking a moment from the job, this gal on match contacted me from vancouver bc – she seemed really cool – so I took a chance this last weekend and went up to van and had a good time.. but it wasn’t a complete match.. was thinking about calling you but didn’t want to be disrespectful to her..  it was surreal experience – i wish people put more up close pictures of themselves on the site - note to self – when somebody on match puts pictures of themselves up that are far away & not in focus – it is probably not a good sign…   anyway – she is really cool, and I gained a new cool friend… So, how are things with you?”

Well, goody for you! Really?! Was I supposed to be, what? Thrilled that he had made the trip to Vancouver to meet another ‘gal’ and that it didn’t work out? Contacting me would have been disrespectful to her? Surreal? You betcha. Note to you- THAT my friend, is called dating karma. I just can’t decide if it was him or me that was clueless.